Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see. – Mark twain
A happy moment in my life as a doctor.
Deaf-mute couple, wife with difficult labour, communication impossible except by gestures, caesarean delivery is the easy way out. But the easy way is often not the right way. A woman should not have surgical delivery if she can have normal delivery. What is not right for an able woman cannot be right for a differently abled woman.
Labour pain is different for different woman. It can be intense. It can be like having your insides twisted, pulled, and squeezed. If you want to imagine what it can be like, try to take your bottom lip and pull it over your head.
Wife’s labour pain is so intense that the family who wanted normal delivery are now asking for a caesarean. I and my junior and the resident doctor monitor the progress of the labour from midnight onwards. We reassure the family. We help the wife ease the pain telling her by gestures how to do it. We give her emotional support. She cannot speak or hear. But she senses that we are warm, kind, and understanding, and have genuine interest in her and the infant’s welfare. And that gives her strength.
We are determined that she will have normal delivery. She is entitled to it. And finally, at one in the afternoon, she delivers a baby boy. Mother and baby both hale and hearty.
The couple: Javed, Arifa, deaf-mute and exceptionally smart
Everyone cheers up. I the most. In the end, the pain of childbirth is not remembered. It’s the child that’s remembered.
This story will be incomplete without a word about Javed, the husband. Despite being deaf-mute, he did B Com, learned data science, and is a data analyst at Concentrix, an independent American business services company headquartered in Fremont, California. It provides services to ten industries such as Banking and Financial Services, Healthcare, Media and Communications, and Technology. He earns well and takes care of himself and his family independently.
Javed is an inspiration. An example that with grit a new way for life is possible.
“Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing.” – Albert Schweitzer
Views expressed above are the author’s own.
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